Ephesians 5:25-33

I want to share with you scripture that shows us how to treat each other. In it, we find 4 action steps that show how to approach one another daily.

Ephesians 5:25-33
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church– for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery–but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Give Yourself Up for Her

There is nobody else on this planet that is more important than your wife. As a man, it is your job to give yourself up for your wife in order to make her holy. It’s not about you anymore. Just like Jesus made it not about himself. He made it all about you.

We have to realize that it is about giving up your selfish desires and devoting yourself to her so that she is separate from all others.

Cleanse Her

Wash your wife with the Word. Many times Audrey says to me that she is struggling reading the Bible or that she wants a “scripture of the week” to help motivate more reading and learning. This is a clear callout for action. She wants me to be the man that I am called to be in Ephesians 5. She wants me to cleanse her with the Word by sharing with her and relating it to our world around us.

Present Her 

Present your wife as a Holy and blameless person. Build her up when you communicate with your peers. Don’t joke about arguments or personality quirks. It’s not funny. She has to be presented as someone who is above any other human on earth. She is your wife. She mothers and otherwise spends so much time with your kids. In doing so, she unselfishly devotes her life to raising them appropriately. Be a good man then and speak well of her. She deserves it.

Love Her

In the end, it’s all about love. The definition of love is Christ. Pay close attention to His actions and His words in the Bible. Make sure to recognize how he treats his disciples and other followers (the church). When you read the Bible with purpose, many times scripture will jump off the page and affect your thought patterns in the future. I pray that this happens to you as a result of reading this reflection of Ephesians 5.

In my life…

As a final note, I need to do a better job at loving my wife. I need to have compassion in times of weakness. I need to be more diligent about having empathy. I should passionately seek ways to improve our communication. I should pray more. I should seek out moments where she really needs me to step up and be the man she wants me to be. I should cleanse her with the Word. I should build her up around peers and not joke about any inadequacies that I think she has.

And so it starts…

My wife is awesome. She shows our children how to love and how to behave. She is ademate about preparing meals for us. She ensures that the kids are healthy. She notices little “bad” things that our son does and nips them in the bud so that those little things don’t become monsters. She’s incredible at noticing details. She keeps the house clean and keeps me in check.

She is a true friend, and I don’t know where I would be without her.


Eternal Decisions

Each decision we make in life has an eternal impact. Therefore, we have to be very particular about our decisions. We have to concentrate on doing the next good deed, and continue on a path to righteousness. We must kick addictions and focus on why we are here on earth. We have to fight. We have to overcome obstacles that get in the way.

And obstacles will get in the way…

In any level of commitment, obstacles will appear. Obstacles show up sometimes because of our own actions, but sometimes they show up just because that is what God has in plan for us at the time. In this moment, we must be still. We must freeze and concentrate on what it is we are trying to accomplish. In that moment, we have to make a fatherly decision.

This is mainly a blog post for the fathers out there but can really be applied to anyone.

Let’s talk Adam and Eve:

Adam and Eve lived in Paradise. They walked and talked with God. Any of us put in that situation say to ourselves, “If I had everything, I would never…” However, we act like Adam and Eve everyday, and we live in a pretty good situation. Most of us have a house overhead, food, and the necessities of life. Then, we make decisions that tear us apart from God.

I want you to be very careful of the decisions that you make, especially if they are repeated violations. Being a father means that you transfer things down generationally, and you are raising percentages for your children or grandchildren to struggle with the very same habit that you are caught in.

It’s like a snowball effect. If you cannot destroy the snowball before it binds you and keeps you in its shackles, then the beast grows bigger. Left untreated, your life can be destroyed. The same can happen to your children. Don’t let unbroken curses flow to your next generation. Kick it out and leave it behind. Don’t let a smoking habit turn into a marijuana habit. Don’t let anger turn into abuse. Don’t let who you are in Christ be overcome by your selfishness to please the flesh.

Your example lasts for generations.

Let’s talk Jesus:

Jesus is another father of mankind that we have a joy of knowing. We see in the Bible that he was here on earth to show us how to live and love abundantly. He did not sin and leaves a perfect example for us to follow. His decisions affected those he taught. We have to trust in his willingness to love us through tough situations. We know that he was tempted, but he did not fault. He claimed His Father’s words when he was tempted. He knew his father so well and trusted that His promises were true. His father was perfect, and Jesus ultimately chose what His father would have him choose.

We must realize that our children will do the same. They will trust us because they think (at least for a while) that we are perfect. They will make decisions based on our promises and our choices. So, choose wisely.