Eternal Decisions

Each decision we make in life has an eternal impact. Therefore, we have to be very particular about our decisions. We have to concentrate on doing the next good deed, and continue on a path to righteousness. We must kick addictions and focus on why we are here on earth. We have to fight. We have to overcome obstacles that get in the way.

And obstacles will get in the way…

In any level of commitment, obstacles will appear. Obstacles show up sometimes because of our own actions, but sometimes they show up just because that is what God has in plan for us at the time. In this moment, we must be still. We must freeze and concentrate on what it is we are trying to accomplish. In that moment, we have to make a fatherly decision.

This is mainly a blog post for the fathers out there but can really be applied to anyone.

Let’s talk Adam and Eve:

Adam and Eve lived in Paradise. They walked and talked with God. Any of us put in that situation say to ourselves, “If I had everything, I would never…” However, we act like Adam and Eve everyday, and we live in a pretty good situation. Most of us have a house overhead, food, and the necessities of life. Then, we make decisions that tear us apart from God.

I want you to be very careful of the decisions that you make, especially if they are repeated violations. Being a father means that you transfer things down generationally, and you are raising percentages for your children or grandchildren to struggle with the very same habit that you are caught in.

It’s like a snowball effect. If you cannot destroy the snowball before it binds you and keeps you in its shackles, then the beast grows bigger. Left untreated, your life can be destroyed. The same can happen to your children. Don’t let unbroken curses flow to your next generation. Kick it out and leave it behind. Don’t let a smoking habit turn into a marijuana habit. Don’t let anger turn into abuse. Don’t let who you are in Christ be overcome by your selfishness to please the flesh.

Your example lasts for generations.

Let’s talk Jesus:

Jesus is another father of mankind that we have a joy of knowing. We see in the Bible that he was here on earth to show us how to live and love abundantly. He did not sin and leaves a perfect example for us to follow. His decisions affected those he taught. We have to trust in his willingness to love us through tough situations. We know that he was tempted, but he did not fault. He claimed His Father’s words when he was tempted. He knew his father so well and trusted that His promises were true. His father was perfect, and Jesus ultimately chose what His father would have him choose.

We must realize that our children will do the same. They will trust us because they think (at least for a while) that we are perfect. They will make decisions based on our promises and our choices. So, choose wisely.

 

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10 Reasons Why You are a Great Father

There are many pathways to creating great children. Great people can sometimes rise from the worst possible parenting and have an everlasting positive influence on people around them. Take Joyce Meyer, for example, who was abused all her life but has become one of the most trusted sources in the Christian community and invests time in showing women how to break boundaries. She is a true hero; I learn from each message she delivers.

Abuse is definitely not the correct way to parent, however, and most people that are put in those situations as children abandon their parents and live lost lives restricted to their memories of affliction and torment.

On the flip side, my wife is an awesome human being. She encourages our children and shows them what it is to love through service, affection, and doing things that are fun for them. Just before our first son Clay was born, she wanted to display why I was going to be a great father. I was really moved.

Here is what she had to say :

10 Reasons You Will Make A Great Father

Each of us can learn from my wife’s words and soak up the different things that we ought to do to be awesome fathers. Having a servant’s heart is huge, praying for your family, undeniably important. Making your wife a priority each and every day, and openly communicating schedules and desires is an absolute must. There is no doubt that her words of wisdom run deep, and a preacher could make a sermon (or even a series of sermons)  on each point.

The Substitute…

I encourage you to go through the list one more time but replace “you” with “I”. See how it transforms you into a better mindset. Walking through this list at least weekly will definitely keep my priorities straight with my family.

Numbers 1 through 9 are reasons that any man would make a great father. The one reason that motivates me the most, however, is #10. The reason that I am a great father to my children is because I am me. Simply put, there is no substitute for who I am. There are only a couple of roles in my life in which there is absolutely no substitute, being a husband to my wife and a father to my kids.

Make a Decision

In a life full of demands from outside circumstances that seem to pull us away from the family, we have to decide on how we are going to spend our time. And if we find ourselves spending less and less time with our family, our family is growing without us, apart from us. We have to make a lifestyle decision so that our family is a priority, not the leftover. Family time is absolutely crucial to growing together into one unit.

Let’s face it…

You can be replaced in any position you have on earth. If you’re a teacher like me, there is another teacher out there that can replace you. If you’re a coach, replaceable. Even if you are doing the Lord’s work and must be away from home to spread the word of the gospel, you are replaceable. The only unique roles that you have in your life is that you are a husband to your wife and father to your children.

There is no substitute for “Daddy”

Even God in Heaven does not want you to claim someone else as Daddy. We are jealous of that title and rightly so. I urge you to please take time to watch and/or listen to this thirty minute message from Andy Stanley on making Breathing Room (Part 4 of series). If you don’t have 30 minutes, you can always download the podcast through your phone and listen on the way to work.

So what are you going to do, Daddy?

It’s time to make priorities in your life. Is your wife a priority? She loves you because she wants to. Your kids love you because they want to. They are pulling for you to be a dad who has great influence on them. They want you to support them and to make family time as important as making a dollar. Family time is more important than nearly any other event that I can name. Don’t cover up family time with television; kick the thing off. There is no substitute for you in your role as a father. I, just like all of us, am working on prioritizing my life and have some accountability to make sure that it happens. I encourage you to do the same.

What next?

I encourage you to leave a comment below to let me know what you will do (or what you have already implemented) to make family time a priority. As I stated, I am still figuring out how to balance work and family time so seeing your comments will benefit me as well. Let’s learn together.

Much Love,